The Dr. asked what we were going to do as far as birth control. I told her that since we did IVF and it took us soooo long to get to this point, that we did NOT want to have to go through IVF again so we would just let whatever happens happen. She said that since I had a c-section, I couldn't get pregnant for another year (like SHE could really prevent that). I then asked her if I got pregnant again, could I deliver vaginally instead of c-section again. She looked at my chart and said since I was 'stuck' at 7 1/2 centimeters during labor for so long that she strongly advised against it. Blah, blah, blah...
I know she has to give us her medical opinion, but I left there feeling like she was basically telling me I shouldn't even try to have another child for another year. Maybe she didn't hear the IVF part of my story. Anyone who's gone through IVF knows that you can't really 'plan' to have a baby naturally. Does she really think that I can PLAN when I can have more kids?? I've heard stories of couples getting pregnant right away after having a baby. And I've also heard stories where it's taken couples YEARS to have a second baby.
Who knows which of those categories I will fall in, but what I do know is that I WILL have more children. I know that Heavenly Father knows what's best for me and my family. And things happen in His time, not mine (or any doctors).
I have to put my faith in His plan. He has gotten me this far and will never abandon me, as long as I keep believing.
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Your little man is so so cute! I've always heard you can't give birth for a year, not get pregnant. Anyways, you're right, God will plan what is best for your family. You look great, I hope I look that good 6 weeks postpartum!
I wonder if doctors take classes in human relations and communication in med school...they could really use some sensitivity training. I have a friend who became pregnant 12 weeks after delivering her baby via c-section. She had a healthy pregnancy, though she did delivery via c again. Do what you know is right for you.
Your family is GORGEOUS! Look at you guys!! I can hardly believe it. It seems like it was just a couple months ago that you were posting about a BFN. I can't believe he's here already. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.
You are so right Hannah, it was that same faith that put little Matthew in your arms. As always you are so inspiring, I still look up to you when it comes to faith and trusting. Some days are really hard for me lately. Thank you for being that source. Xoxoxoxo
God's plans are far more perfect than any doctor's, that's for sure! Don't stress about this. It sounds like she was just being matter-of-fact and unsympathetic to what you've been through and where you're going. I've heard that after a c-section you shouldn't have a baby within one year, but that doesn't include being pregnant within that year. Think about it, if Matthew is now 7 weeks old, and pregnancy is 40 weeks, then as long as you don't get pregnant in the next 5 weeks you'll not have two births in a year. And if you do, then that is a BLESSING and you will be fine. Hang in there and let God take the reigns as I know you will. You look beautiful by the way (love your hair curly!) and Matthew is already growing up so much, losing the newborn "look."
Don't listen to her. You should try for a VBAC if you want to. If that practice is not supportive, find one that is! I had a c-section and then tried for a VBAC with baby #2 (conceived totally naturally 15 months after baby #1 was born. it took a long time to get pregnant with baby #1 but baby #2 happened pretty easily - we weren't really even trying). I ended up with another c-section but I was happy that my doctor was supportive of a VBAC and did all he could to let me try. I got stuck at 4cm with the first baby. I made to 6+ the second time but then had some complications that required an immediate emergency c/s.
The point of all my rambling... you CAN have another baby and you CAN try for VBAC. I say ditch that bitchy doc!
Beautiful pictures! Glad to see you guys are doing well.
You have such a beautiful family and god will add to it when it's time not when a doctor says.
Have to love the "what are you going to use for birth control" question after infertility... Love the pictures! Your family is so beautiful!
I hear ya! You do what feels right for you. Be careful of vaginal after C-section- it is different for everyone- get second opinion when the time comes. C-sections are much better when they are planned and you don't have labor before, but that was just my experience. I had one vaginal and two c-sections- and the last planned c-section was the best recovery for me.
Not sure why some drs don't listen. Why would any infertile go on BCP to prevent pregnancy. It’s kind of funny. Love the pictures! Matthew looks like such a cute little man!
Hey Girl - thanks for supporting me and reading my blog - I actually have a blood clotting disocrder so I know I will have to stay on the Lovenox for the whole pregnancy - I just wanted to say Congrats to you and tell you that your little boy is so adorable!!!!
Woo hoo for a 6 week check up. You guys look great. I still have something to send you! I'll try and get it in the mail this week.
Wow I can't believe you are 6 weeks pp already! That time has gone fast. If it is any consolation, my OB also told me to not get pregnant for a year after the c-section. However she explained why...She said that my incisions need time to heal very tightly because the expansion of another baby on fresh scars can cause them to tear very easily - obviously causing major problems for me and the new baby. That made sense to me. She also wanted me to go on birth control for that reason because a surprise pregnancy can happen at anytime. And I truly believe that the BC helped with my PP hormone let down and helped get things back into a rhythm that would have otherwise taken a lot longer. Each time I had my period I felt a little more in control of my emotions. Not trying to convince you of anything just providing a little more information since the OB didn't seem to want to offer you much. Matthew is the cutest! I love the hair!
Holy Moly where has the time gone?! I'm so happy for you guys. Matthew is soo cute! I just want to touch that hair! It's gorgeous. I would be quite skeptical going on the pill after having worked so hard to get to this point. Follow your heart. And don't let Dr. Grouchy steer you in the wrong direction. Love & Hugs
What a cute family pic! You look great and Matthew is a doll!
It is amazing to me that doctors (mine included) don't have more tact...especially with those of us who have struggled with infertility. Just be careful...I NEVER thought it could or would happen to me! HA!
Best wishes!
Being 'stuck' doesn't mean anything for other labors and deliveries. I was 'stuck' with Brad at 5cm and had a c-section. Then went on to have Wy and Trav vaginally. So poo on that doctor. You go with your gut and follow the promptings of the Spirit and your family will grow as Heavenly Father would see fit!!!
Boo! I did a vbac with Heather. It was 2 years later, but everything went great. It you decide it's something you want search for a very supportive doctor. They're out there, just gotta look around a bit.
I never had a doctor ever tell me to wait and I had 4 c-sections. My sister-in-law's dr. told her to wait. My sister's dr. didn't say anything - she was 9months pp when she got pregnant and delivered VBAC just fine. I would say do whatever is best for you. The incision not being closed all the way yet is more worrisome to me than you getting pregnant soon. The only worry being that the longer it's open the more chances for germs and infection to set in. Try some neosporin on it, helps speed healing and fights germs. I had at least 1 but probably 2 that weren't closed by 6 weeks. Good luck with doctors that always give advice based on not wanting a malpractice lawsuit. Have faith that God won't give you more than you (or your body) can handle. Follow the spirit and you will be fine.
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